AFFAIR-PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE

Nothing destroys a family faster than adultery. God says I've given you a drive called sex. Properly controlled and expressed within a marriage it's beautiful and fantastic.
But outside of marriage it is destructive and detrimental to your health as a human being, emotionally, spiritually, in every way.
The following things can cause affairs in a marriage:
1. Unmet Needs
2. Unfulfilled Expectations
3. Unresolved Conflict
4. Undeveloped Self-Worth

Dr. Willard Harley, in his book His Needs, Her Needs. Has identified what he thinks are the top 5 needs of most men and the top 5 needs of most women. See if you see any similarities between these two lists:
THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST MEN ARE:
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. An Attractive Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration
THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST WOMEN ARE:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty And Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment
Did you see any similarities between those two lists? No wonder we have so much trouble adjusting in marriage.

The goal you have in your marriage is to be best friends. "It's real easy to leave your spouse. It's not easy to leave your best friend."
How do you build a friendship? TIME, TIME, TIME!
You cannot be best friends with someone you don't spend time with, that you don't see very often, that you don't talk and tell your heart to.

Most affairs occur between close personal friends, co workers or family members.
Some do’s and don’ts:
1. Don't let a member of the opposite sex tell you his or her marriage problems
2. Women do not go fishing for compliments.
3. Avoid a prolonged stare
4. Take special precaution on business trips.
5. Choose your friends carefully

God thought up sex. It's His idea. In marriage it is wonderful and fantastic and a beautiful expression of Christ's love for the church. But used improperly it destroys marriages, damages families and lives, damages self esteem, creates misery and guilt, shame and regret, depression, not to mention all the kinds of communicable diseases that are out there today.

HEBREWS 13:5 "HUSBANDS AND WIVES BE FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER. GOD WILL JUDGE THOSE WHO ARE IMMORAL AND COMMIT ADULTERY."

So let us make up our mind today to play by God’s rules, otherwise we and many others may get hurt!

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